Guided Conversation Questions

Use these questions, one step at a time, to guide your conversation.

Step 1: Establish a starting place.

1. How did you come to care about this issue?

  • Did something happen in your life to lead you to care about this issue?

  • Do you know someone who is impacted by this issue?

  • How did you feel when you first recognized this issue?

2. When does this issue come up for you?

  • Who do you interact with about this issue?

  • How do they feel/think about it?

  • How does this influence you?

Step 2: Reflect on Personal Beliefs.

3. Has your opinion or feelings about this issue changed over time?

  •  Has this issue become more or less important to you over time? What caused that change?

  • Have your opinions about how to approach this issue changed over time? Why do you think that is?

  • Do you think differently about this issue than you did before? How so?

4. What has made you doubt or question your beliefs/feelings/opinions?

  •  Have you had any conversations or relationships that make you question your stance?

  • Have you seen any news stories that made you question your stance?

  • Have you had personal experiences that made you question your stance?

5. What has solidified your beliefs/feelings/opinions on this issue?

  •  Have you had any conversations or relationships that reinforced your stance?

  • Have you seen any news stories that reinforced your stance?

  • Have you had personal experiences that reinforced your stance?

6. What questions do you have about the issue?

  •  What do you wish you had more information about?

  • Do you see any holes in your understanding of this issue?

  • If you could talk to an expert on this issue, what would you ask them?

Step 3: Work with Others.

7. What is your vision for the future when it comes to this issue?

  •  If you could change anything about how our country deals with this issue, what would it be?

  • What would our country look like if this weren’t an issue?

  • What would you like to say to people who are personally affected by this issue?

8. How would you change the conversation around this issue?

  •  If you could change the public debate about this issue from a yes/no question into something different, what would it be? Instead of asking “should we allow puppies or cats in our town?” I might ask, “how should our town engage with animals?”)

  • What aspects of this issue do you wish could be discussed and aren’t?

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